People often read up about happiness, try all the happiness hacks and yet make very little progress in feeling happy.
We often forget that happiness is an inside job and no one else can make us happy other than us. Happiness begins with taking care of our thoughts and feelings.
The society has a very broken formula for happiness. We often attribute our happiness to things outside of us. Our relationships, our career, our bank balance. Often forgetting that happiness is an inside job and no one else can make us happy other than us.
Top five things to give up immediately if you want to be successful are:
1. Negative self-talk
Listen closely to what you say to yourself when things don’t go the way you had expected them. Do you blame, criticize yourself? Do you label yourself as a failure?
The one person who needs your love and compassion the most is you, yourself! Use positive affirmations. Affirmations are short positive sentences about ourselves and our future to help you get through challenges.
Speak kindly to yourself. How would you support if one of your closest friends was struggling? Would you blame the person, ridicule them, be unkind to them? The answer is mostly No. Yet, we end up treating ourselves harshly.
Be your own best friend and your own cheerleader first. Learn to love yourself unconditionally. Only when we fill our hearts with self-love, will the love spill into all our relationships with other people. Your relationship with yourself is the most important relationship you will ever have.
Are you a procrastinator? It’s imperative to use our time well. We mostly procrastinate when we find the task overwhelming, unpleasant or when we aren’t self-disciplined.
The best way to stop procrastinating is to start with the most difficult task first. once we get done with the most challenging task, the rest seems relatively easy.
If you have difficulty managing your time, divide your time into smaller blocks to get work done. For example, you may have four blocks of thirty minutes each to get the most important and urgent tasks completed first when you start your day.
3. Social Media
Do not compare someone’s social media life to your real life. Take a social media detox occasionally. Ditch your mobile apps and go for a walk instead. Today instead of texting your friend on Whatsapp, call the person instead. Ask someone, how they are and genuinely listen to what they have to say.
Do not indulge in gossip. Instead, use that time to educate yourself. Watch documentaries, read books. Decide to spend your time wisely. After all, we are the books we read, the movies we watch, the conversations we have.
Excuse yourself from the negativity and drama that surrounds you. Spend your time expressing gratitude for the abundances in your life, Practice meditation, exercise, engage in activities that make you lose track of time and bring you pleasure.
Stay away from people who drain your energy or bring you down. Do not judge others too. We judge others because we want to feel good about ourselves. Things we judge in others are things we haven’t accepted in us. Ask yourself, Why is this person triggering me? What does it remind me of that I haven’t accepted in myself?
One of the major cause of unhappiness, dissatisfaction, and diseases is stress. Release the need to be perfect. Release the need to be in control. There are going to be situations and problems in our lives over which we will have no control or very little control.
Stressing over situations or problems over which we have no direct control is a waste of time and no matter how much we try, we will only end feeling frustrated and exhausted. We must realize that no matter what the problem is, we always have a choice.
Sometimes, the only choice we have is to control our thoughts, feelings, and behaviours. Learning to be decisive can reduce stress significantly.
Happiness and stress are both choices we make every day. We must learn to choose wisely. Life is ten per cent of what happens to us and 90 per cent of how we respond to it.
Lastly, I would like to end up with a quote:
“Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking.” – Marcus Aurelius
If you need help with any of the above or other things that are holding you back, reach out to us.